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Wednesday, January 12, 2011

On A Personal Note -- Christmas 2010

It has been an astounding year. The two biggest events were certainly February 7th when my Mother celebrated her 100th birthday and then, a few days after proudly telling the Vitas hospice workers that she was “one hundred and a half,” she passed on June 28th.

Funny, it took her one hundred years before she would divulge her age. Usually when someone asked her age, she would ask: “Can you keep a secret?” Her visitor would always agree. Then she would say with a smile, “So can I!”

Both my folks lived long lives. Each was alert and active until just days before their passing. When I came back home in what seems like a lifetime ago, I was “just going to be here for a while;” until "FB" (my Dad) recovered from an automobile accident. I never guessed that in my coming home I would see them both “home.”

I think life is that way, you never know what is around the corner.

I am grateful for both of them as I am for you and all our friends who made my mother’s last years a blessing. Allow me to share two stories – forgive me if you have heard them.

I was overwhelmed with the idea of a 100th birthday party. Everyone had a different idea. Then one day at our church office, the priest said: “Well, if she can’t come to church, then we will just take the church to her!” Everything fell into place with that simple statement.

And so on Sunday, February 7th, nearly 100 people with as many balloons showed up on the front lawn for a surprise birthday. When I opened up the front door, she peered outside and said, “Why are all those people here?” For months afterward she would moved over to the couch; open the photo album she was to weak to hold and we talked about the pictures: “That’s the mayor.” “These are our neighbors.” “That’s our mail carrier.” “That’s the lady who helped me.” “That’s Mary Jean, . . .Johnnie …Donnie…”

And on June 28th when she was passing in the home she loved, surrounded by friends and family, someone started to sing the words, “Swing low sweet chariot comin’ for to carry you home…” At one point the hospice worker looked at me and said, “Please note the time of passing at 5:23 p.m.”

During the past year, no matter how hard the care-giving got, she would always say, “I know what you are doing!” She did. She cared for her mother much as I did for her. Her last words to me were, “I have to stay alive, I have to take care of you.” Mine to her were, “It’s okay, I promise I will take care of myself.”

Almost immediately, I was on a plane that took me to Belize, farther away from home than any of my direct ancestors have been since our family came to America in the 1600s. It’s a wonderful country; and, as I sat on the edge of a pier over the warm Caribbean, I realized that I would not have been able to be there if I were still care-giving. I know Mother was glad I was able to be there.

Shortly after that, I was in Oklahoma with long-time friends; over my birthday and Thanksgiving I was in Palm Springs, the Mojave National Preserve and Las Vegas; and then this last week to Riverside, California at the wonderful Mission Inn for a church event. It has been a long time since I have been able to travel. I am grateful that I can.

I am not sure what these Christmas letters are supposed to say, but if I am to be honest, I would say that while there is sadness in her passing, these last three years have been the best of our lives.

As trustee of the estate I am closing it down. I have time to figure out where my journey will take me now…but if that journey is as exciting, meaningful and loving as the one I have been on, I have nothing to fear.

Blessings...

“Wherever you go, I will go, and wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.”
Ruth 1 16-17

Monday, December 7, 2009

Old Hymns and Hope - revised

"The Dust Bin of History" was the name of a column I wrote. Its sole purpose was to bring attention to 21st century people who just "didn't get it.” Usually, they were very odd and second-rate characters found on the third paragraph of a news story who were caught up in ideas popular a hundred years ago, or even worse, pretending they understood how concepts expressed a hundred or even a thousand years ago should be interpreted today.

But located on the front or back of a newspaper, each of them had one common characteristic: their voice and/or actions represented ideas, faiths or political points of view that people in the successive generations from now, will just shake their head and wonder, “Why?”

History is filled with “dust bins” – ideas and people whose names and ideas are forgotten like flecks of dust. Does anyone remember the names of folks who nailed Jesus to a cross, who believed in slavery or who relegated women to the kitchen? Names like Caligula, Jefferson and Hitler come to mind but they were the leaders of lost causes.

I wonder how many of the "common" folks from those times went along with their leaders’ thinking. Did they say, “Well, I’d rather keep my old fashion belief." or "He represents how I feel." or “My tried and true feelings always worked in the past.”

I can never know how people felt then; all I can ask now is; why do change or the future frighten them so.

When I was in college I had a conversation with the Chair of the English department which ended with her saying: “Oh, Frank, logically prejudice cannot survive … not in America.” So in the 70s I thought that if this country could move beyond the “gay" issue, beyond narrow-minded folks and divisive rhetoric, then perhaps, just perhaps, we could move into a brighter future.

Decades later I now realize that some women died before they had the vote; that slaves died enslaved and that many gay persons will never see a world of equal rights...

There is an old Christian hymn whose first line reads: "The strife is o'er, the battle done, the victory of life is won." I can hear the tone as I write those words. It is a restoration song whose words point to that better future.

I live in the hope that the strife surrounding gay persons will be o’er and that the victory of life will be won.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

I GOT SO MAD ..



The fanatic La Rouche people showed up at my local market with this poster. I got so mad I walked into the market found the manager who just happen to be standing around 20 people and very loudly insisted that "I objected to that awful poster and that if you don't remove it I would never, never come back here." I must admit to surprising even myself; I don't think I have ever done anything like that before.

The manager immediately moved away allowing me to follow him and told me that he had called the police who at that moment came driving up. I didn't stay around to find out what happened. As I left I said to the two people at the table, "Take your poster and crawl back into the hole you came from."

My family was deeply effect by WWII. Friends of mine had family who died in concentration camps ... I can't go on. But to compare President Obama's plans for health overhaul to something from the Nazi era is ludicrous and just plan insane!

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

A Letter to Equality California

Mr. Kors,

I may have been fighting this "battle" longer than you have been alive ... well, I really don't know your age, but...

Personally, I am one of folks who "knew the 'first' generation” of gay activists but am a member of the "second generation that got wipe out by AIDS" group. Those years ago, I moved "back home" to escape a confusing world, to avoid the "cancer" and to escape the pain of the early AIDS death of the man who these days would have been "my husband."

And so it has turned out that this gay man has lived out most of his life in a "str'8" world ... even if it was in a suburban of Los Angeles. There are many of us here. And I discovered that "out here" and just being "me" worked ... even without a lover or kids.

I worked in the religious world, went to church, tended my garden, took care of my parents, smiled at my neighbors, joined the local Rotary, set up neighborhood associations, did my share of volunteering and in a small ways tried to create a better world. It has been a world outside of political wonks and ghettos. Life is about walking around the neighborhood with friends and, at some point or other, coming out in small ways.

It is the idea of those "small ways" that make me think that you and "Equality California" have done the right thing in delaying the vote on marriage equality. And to be frank, I am not sure there are not enough of "me" around and just being good neighbors now.

One more thing ... many of the ground folks in last year’s campaign to defeat Prop 8 were clueless. I can get on a phone and talk to anyone ... that's what I have been doing for 30 years. But the guys you hired to run the campaign on the local level? They were clueless. I imagine they were all working they way up the political ladder and had no idea of why my next door neighbor cried when I told her about Jimmy; Jimmy, who these days "would have been my husband'" ... and for whom I will always say, "Better once than ever, for never too late ..."

So spend some time and get some folks around you who know what winning this "fight" is all about ... Please?

Sunday, August 9, 2009

GOP can go South

Published last week:

I love the South; the memories I have of long ago family “car” trips through it, and more recently one particular former Pasadena resident who has now moved back to her home in Alabama. But it was in the South many years ago that I discovered that people hated “Negros”; that there were black and white drinking fountains and when I heard my father firmly say to his two boys, “We don’t think like that; we don’t live like that!”

Years later I remember hearing the commentators say that the Democratic Party would “lose the South” if they move forward on issues of justice and equal rights. “Demand and implement equal rights in voting and in education and the South will go Republican,” they said. Somewhere in my teens I thought, “Well let them go; let bigotry go, let hatred go. It’s okay.” That was not the America I learned about in school or the one my parents believed in.

Today Republican Sen. George Voinovich of Ohio said the Republican Party was being “taken over by the Southerners,” with their “extremist ideas.” Sen. David Vitter of Louisiana shot back, calling Voinovich "a moderate, really wishy-washy.”

I think it is time to let the Republican Party become “Southern.” Let them dwell there with the uglier parts of our historical and political life. Free up the rest of us to remember everything that has makes our country great. Leave the bigotry and hatred there and hope that someday it will wither away and die in the swamps of South Florida.

Frank Clark

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

A Budget? or Punishment!

Letters to the editor: All are punished
Posted: 07/21/2009 05:18:20 PM PDT

Tuesday's headlines read, "California governor, lawmakers reach budget deal."

I wonder how many of these "lawmakers" will attend the funerals of people who die for lack of care; how many will visit the elderly who are forced into nursing homes; how many of their children will have to attend over sized classrooms; how many of their children go without college - the list is endless as are the numbers of people who "care" but who will lose their "caring" jobs.

At the end of Shakespeare's "Romeo and Juliet," the Prince shouts at the players as he views the sorrow that surround them: "All are punish'd!"

All are "punish'd": Democrats for forgetting "the least of these." And Republicans who do not care.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

What Yarddog Thinks

Within my Christian context the word "evil" can mean many things ... and then there is the business of the "one unforgivable sin." These two concepts do not find their way in to my every day faith. But what do you do with folks who for whom these two concepts mean something?

They claim to represent my faith; they claim to know the Truth and they want our larger American family to be subjected to their point of view. Trouble is I don't think like them and I do not believe my Creator and His Son don't think like them.

So what am I to do with this bunch:>
American Association of Christian Counselors
American Family Association
Americans for Prosperity
Brotherhood Organization of a New Destiny (BOND)
Campaign for Working Families
Catholic Online
Concerned Women for America
Conservative Action Project
Eagle Forum
Exodus International
Faith and Action
Family Research Council
High Impact Leadership
Liberty Alliance Action
Liberty Counsel
Liberty University
Life Education and Resource Network (LEARN)
Marc Nuttle
Morning Star Ministries
National Clergy Council
National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference
Renewing American Leadership
Strang Communications
Teen Mania
The Call to Action
Traditional Values Coalition
Vision America


Yarddog

Any clue?

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

PROTEST TONIGHT



By clicking on the link in the title above you will discover where the protests in your area are tonight and in the upcoming days ... more later.

Monday, March 9, 2009

IT HAS BEEN A WHILE

First, this is more of diary entry than a blog but then I think allot of posts on the blog-a-sphere are just that ...

I don't often refer people to another person's blog ... particularly for something I should have written myself but an Episcopal priest here writes a blog called, "An Inch in Time," and her latest post say so much ... heard it HERE.

That writer is much better at updating her blog than I am these days ... but then the past election took a lot out of me...

... end diary entry ...

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Final Presidential Debate, Joe the Plumber and Yarddog

Who the hell is Joe the Plumber and who cares ... and then there is this .. check it out!

Obama kept his cool even when attacked about that ridiculous William Ayres and the Acorn business ... It simply didn't take ... McCain made the extreme right wing happy by bring up ancient history; Obama keep to the future and caring about how he can fix things ..

Best moment? When Obama listed the people who were advising him.

Worst moment? When McCain tried to explain why Palin was qualified ...

Obama won on points; McCain won on the negativity.CBS says it was a sweep. "The truth is that his (McCain) choices say more about his campaign than they do about me." Obama

EXGAY SUES DC

A support group for so-called "ex-gays," PFOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays), has brought suit against Washington, D.C.’s Office of Human Rights for not including "ex-gays" as a protected group under laws that bar discrimination based on sexual orientation.

The executive director of PFOX, Regina Griggs, is quoted in a story as claiming, "The ex-gay community is the most bullied and maligned group in America, yet they are not protected by sexual orientation non-discrimination laws."

In Washington, D.C., discrimination based on several categories is banned, including "sexual preference," "sexual orientation," "gender identity," and "gender expression," the article noted.

Now, I just don't get this ... aren't "ex-gays" heterosexuals now? Geessssssss.

PALIN, HATRED, FEAR

I wonder if Ms. Palin is happy with this?

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

GOLDBERG, REPUBLICAN BASE AND AMERICA?

Jonah Goldberg wrote a column for the LA Times; this was my response to him.

Yes, go ahead and "hit" Mr. Goldberg; you are a perfect creation of our times! History however captures how Rockefeller was treated at the '64 Rep convention -- how he was ridiculed; how Nixon used out right lies in his first race for congress against Douglas and breed generations of political operatives who scream "win at any cost" ... right on down to "Swift Boats" and Ayres. Republican don't win on ideas; they win by fabricating "character defaults."

Take a look at the Republican base. Who are they ... homophobic, xenophobic, racists and religious zealots ... people whose political lives are based on their own "rightness" and a fear of anyone different from them. They have scraped together the rank parts of our nature around a political party ... three generations of Republican leaders have preached, "at any cost" to the point that the prospect of a Democrat winning causes the reactions we see at Republican rallies -- "hang him" they shout, in reference to Mr. Obama.

The ultimate example is Karl Rove, who developed and implemented a successful political strategy based on inflaming the political base through wedge issues like gay marriage while his gay father lay dying in Palm Springs ... yes, win at any cost! You, and they, have sown these awful seeds; now all of us must live with the whirlwind.

Monday, October 13, 2008

EQUALITY RIDERS - 2008

Under everyone's radar screen is Soul Forces' Annual 2008 Equality Ride. Each year students between the 18-28 get in a huge bus and travel around the country to mostly conservative religious college campuses in order to advocate for the LGBT community and for religious tolerance.

Six young adults (above) were arrested when they attempted to walk into the DeSantis Family Chapel at Palm Beach Atlantic University in West Palm Beach, Fla., on Monday.

"You are an unwanted guest," campus security director Terry Wheeler said to riders, according to the South Florida Sun-Sentinel. "We have asked the police department to enforce the trespassing law,"

The arrests took place after the Equality Ride bus was damaged Sunday night. The windows were smashed in, shattering two panes of glass, and small portions of the vinyl wrap were also scratched off.

A list of their stops this year is here as is other information. It's director Mel White is a friend from a long time ago. There is a part of me that wishes I was there, too.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Saturday, October 11, 2008

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY



National Coming Out Day is held on October 11th every year to commemorate the first March on Washington by LBGT people. The March took place in October of 1987 and highlighted the lesbigay struggle for acceptance. The first National Coming Out Day was held on October 11, 1988.

The purpose of National Coming Out Day is to promote honesty and openness about being lesbian, gay or bisexual. LAMBDA celebrates this day with activities and resources designed to support coming out. LAMBDA also conducts ongoing projects to help enable our queer brothers and sisters to take their next steps out of the closet.

Or read about celebrating National Coming Out Day here.

MCCAIN, PALIN AND POLITICAL INTOLERANCE ..

Years and years of political character assassinations, lies and distortions has breed a huge segment of the American public that is now reacting in ignorance and fear to an Obama Presidency. Witness the ugly public behavior at the forefront of McCain/Palin campaign rallies.

People are shouting the most horrific things, “Hang him.” “Shoot him.” “Treason!" "Terrorist!" "Kill him!" in reference to Senator Obama. Even when McCain tries to bring reason to chaos, he is taunted with boos! There is no common sense or decency.

Four generations of Republican Party leaders have made rank appeals to our worst natures and preached intolerance, bigotry and hatred ... anything to win. They have sowed those seeds and now America will suffer the whirlwind.

Friday, October 10, 2008

CONNECTICUT, CALIFORNIA & PROP 8...

HARTFORD, Connecticut - Connecticut's Supreme Court ruled Friday that same-sex couples have the right to marry, making that state the third behind Massachusetts and California to legalize such unions.

Enjoy it while you can Connecticut ... I remember not too long ago how joyful that news was here in California. But now once again Californians are fighting the forces of intolerance and religious bigotry. There is now a California voter initiative on the November ballot that would change the state constitution to prevent same sex marriages.

The world is faced with so many difficult issues and loving someone is an issue!?! So if you live in California, visit the no on 8 site or or here for a number of concrete actions you can take to defeat Proposition 8. Wherever you live, you can help pay the costs of getting our message out. Donate to the campaign at here.

There is also a DisHonor Roll here that Californian Against Hate have published of the people and organizations that have funded Prop 8.